Dear Abby: I don’t feel like we’re married anymore

DEAR ABBY:

My husband and I have been together for 12 years, but things have changed. We sleep in separate beds, we both work and we spend little time together, and we can’t have a decent conversation. I feel like I have a roommate who just comes and goes as he pleases. He always has an excuse for not spending time with me and our daughter. I don’t feel like we are married anymore. What should I do? ‚ DISSATISFIED IN VIRGINIA

DEAR DISSATISFIED:

Tell your husband you feel like you are living with a roommate rather than a spouse. Tell him you miss the closeness you once shared, and ask if he is willing to work on it. What is currently happening isn’t fair to you or your daughter. Then make an appointment with a marriage counselor to discuss the state of your marriage — with him, if he’s willing — or without him.

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