Dear Annie:
I have three kids and four bonus kids. They are all adults and living great lives. Most of them live in the same city as my husband and me.
We want to downsize and move to a quieter town, but I don’t want to move far away from them. I like the connection of them coming for the holidays and birthdays or just stopping by. That will obviously change if we move far away (a few hours). I also want to be in the lives of any grandchildren we might have.
I just don’t know what to do. Hubby wants to move to the coast, a plane ride away, which seems so far for me. I also worry about being a lonely old widow not close to my family! My family lives in a different country, so the kids are all the family I have here. We currently live in a big city, so selling and moving is a big step, and we won’t be able to afford to come back.
I feel lost and sad as this next phase happens. — Lost in Confusion
Dear Lost in Confusion:
I don’t think you are lost because I think you know what you want. You want to be close to your adult children and potential grandchildren. Being close to family is very important to you, and that makes more sense than isolating yourself hours away or even a plane ride away. Talk to your husband and ask him why he wants to move away. If he is tired of the big city, maybe you could compromise and try to budget in more vacations or time out of the city.
Home is where the heart is, and it sound s like your heart is with your children, especially if you live far away from your family in a different country.
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