DEAR ABBY:
I recently married and was excited to be part of my husband’s family. My own siblings and I are not particularly close. During COVID, one of my husband’s sisters started a family text chain in which they share what’s happening in their lives. I thought it was a great idea. Not technically being a family member yet, I understood why I wasn’t included in the thread. But after our wedding, I wasn’t added to the chain. Come to find out, none of the spouses are included. I have also learned from my husband that his mother really had no use for any of her kids’ spouses, because technically “we are not one of THEM.”
They aren’t sharing earth-shattering information with one another. It’s normally fun stuff or things their kids are up to, etc. It is very hurtful that I’m not included. I have to hear everything secondhand from my husband. Am I wrong to feel this way? I asked him to add me to the list and he tried, but he couldn’t. Instead of pursuing it with his sister, he just dropped it. I have asked him several times to see what he can do, to no avail. I feel like he doesn’t have my back. Your advice? — LEFT OUT IN FLORIDA
DEAR LEFT OUT:
Your husband doesn’t have enough power in his family to do what you have been requesting, which is regrettable. Rather than pout, consider starting a text chain of your own, comprising of all the outcasts who have been excluded from the “our bloodline and nobody else” chain. It might be fun, and you may find it’s a club that is welcoming and has some interesting things to say.
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