DEAR ABBY:
Eight years ago, my oldest son, a police officer, quit talking to us. We had no fights, no arguments — he just stopped answering our calls, and I no longer was allowed to see my grandchildren. As the year progressed, he also alienated his sister and brothers. For the next three years, I continued trying to contact him or my daughter-in-law, who I also thought I was close to, but they wouldn’t return my calls. Then they moved, and I had no new address for them.
Now, years later, my youngest son (also a police officer) has done the same thing! One minute, he was on the phone laughing and talking with us — then he called back, yelling about sticking up for his ex-wife (who we don’t talk to and NEVER disparaged) and hung up! I called him back and told him how disrespectful it was, and that we have had NO CONTACT with her. He, too, won’t return our calls.
My oldest has been on steroids, and I believe my youngest may be taking them now. I have gotten over the loss of the oldest, as it has been eight years, but my baby is breaking my heart. Do I keep calling? He doesn’t live here in town, but I could go to his home and try to reason with him.
My two other children are also stunned and hurt about how their brothers treat us. We have always been good parents. We had a loving family, filled with God and fun. I’m sure it’s the steroids, but I still don’t know how far to push it. It’s like a switch just flipped in our lives. — COMPLETELY THROWN IN NEVADA
DEAR COMPLETELY THROWN:
You and your husband have my sympathy. If your daughter and middle son are in touch with their youngest brother, they could ask what has caused this estrangement, and intervene. However, there are no guarantees it will work.
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