Career coaches weigh in on burnout, ageism and other tricky workplace dilemmas

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It can be hard to know how to act at work. I want to be my relaxed, authentic self — but sometimes that comes off as way too casual.

For example, I once called my boss “dude.” She’s not that much older than I am, so I slipped into a more laid-back attitude that should probably be reserved for peers. I instantly felt like I had taken a step over that invisible line that divides the professional from the unprofessional. Since then, I’ve made a concerted effort to button up a little.

Luckily, Life Kit is here to help with these awkward workplace dilemmas. This summer, we asked you to send in your work-related questions, from dealing with a boss who has different political views to tackling age discrimination. Then we asked career coaches from the leadership training organization Embrace Change to weigh in and give concrete advice.

Here is a selection of questions and answers. They have been edited for length and clarity.

I’ve hit a wall in my line of work. When is it time to step back from my job to advance my education and therefore my earning potential? —Talia

Advice from career coach Brandon Johnson: Ask yourself, is it really education that’s holding me back? Or something else?

Make sure it’s not other factors such as burnout, your company’s culture or your manager. If you’re sure it’s schooling, then maybe it is time to go back. However, going back to school is a big undertaking, so you want to make sure it’s the right solution. You may be better off searching out a new organization that offers greater growth opportunities and support for your development. Read the full response here.

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