My dad was a successful banker and Army veteran, and he would have been 82 this year.
He survived cancer for more than 25 years, before ultimately passing away from it in 2012. As I grew up, I watched him carefully prepare my four siblings and I for a future without him.
Even though I only got 27 years with my dad, he’s still very much alive in my heart. When I’m faced with a difficult decision or just need a little motivation, I think of him.
Some of the most memorable things he taught me centered around his favorite topics: family, working hard and being smart about money. Here are his six rules for a happy, meaningful life:
1. Quit whining and get the job done.
My dad always focused on being constructive rather than complaining about things that were beyond his control.
Part of his perspective was shaped by his journey with cancer. He worked throughout his treatment, and planned chemotherapy for Fridays so he could rest and recover over the weekend.
His expectation was that we never give up when faced with challenges. It makes me smile to think of his voice, sometimes harsh, encouraging me to keep moving forward.
You could call it tough love.
2. Take your time to give thoughtful responses.
Despite his objections to complaining, my dad never dismissed my feelings or concerns.
He always enjoyed hearing about my early-career stories over dinner. Each time I came home from work and vented to him, he’d listen quietly and attentively without immediately responding. I knew that I would never get a snap reaction from him, but that was okay.
Often, he’d stop by my room hours later and suggest how I could handle a situation I’d mentioned earlier. I always appreciated that he put so much consideration into my concerns.
That overshadowed having to wait hours or days for a thoughtful reply.
3. Don’t be penny wise and dollar foolish.
Although he was a conservative spender, my dad never complained about the cost of basic needs. I’m sure he’d have a…
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