DEAR ABBY:
A relative is getting married, and the RSVP date has passed. It was announced many months ago and was to be a big, formal church wedding, with eight or nine groomsmen and bridesmaids, a flower girl and ring bearer, followed by a reception.
On the last day of the RSVP deadline, the couple sent out a postcard stating: “Change of plans! After much consideration, we have decided to have a private wedding ceremony. Meet at the reception as planned.”
I think it’s extremely rude and presumptuous to be expected to travel a great distance at a hefty expense only to find out that guests are now excluded from the actual wedding. I’m trying to make sense of this awkward situation. Any advice? — LEFT AT THE DOOR
DEAR LEFT:
Yes, I do have a bit of advice for you. Because you are unhappy with the change of plans and find them to be “rude and presumptuous,” send a congratulatory card to the happy couple that reads: “Change of plans: Sorry, we will be unable to attend your reception, but we wish you all the best!” (Their plans changed; so can yours.)
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