Dear Annie: Here’s how to be a valued grandparent today

Dear Annie:

Here are some suggestions for grandparents who feel worthless:

1. Love your grandchildren; let them know your love.

2. Show them the world around us: parks, zoos, theaters, book stores, libraries and museums.

3. Teach love, patience, honesty and integrity by example.

4. Be available.

5. Listen.

6. Give advice only when asked.

7. Let parents know you care and IF they have questions, make yourself available.

8. Congratulate the parents. Let them know you think they are terrific parents and have terrific kids! Let them know you have their back and if they EVER need you, you’re there for them. You will listen, lend your help or give suggestions and advice if ever they want it.

Then back off.

My mother thought my sister was a terrible parent because sis declared neither she nor her husband would ever hit or spank their children. Mother didn’t think that could ever work and she let her disapproval be known. (Spare the rod, spoil the child.) My nieces now are some of the most successful, caring, generous, college educated professional married women I know. Things change. Times change. Ideas change. — Grandmother

Dear Grandmother:

Thank you for the sound advice. I think you offer many really good suggestions.

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