Dear Amy: For years our home has been the go-to home for the holidays. We purposely created this sort of environment because we have large families on both sides and a big circle of close friends.
Our “smallest” gatherings are no less than 25 to 30 people.
The problem is that as the years have gone by, and the kids get older, the list has expanded exponentially with the adult children of our close friends wanting to bring their own friends or dates to the gathering.
I am trying not to let it bother me, but I cannot help but get increasingly annoyed with the asking and bringing extra people.
Don’t get me wrong, everyone has a good time and helps, but I just feel it’s RUDE to continue to put me in the position.
This Thanksgiving alone, I had SIX additional “can they come” guests I don’t even know. Your thoughts?
– Exhausted
Dear Exhausted: Understand that each person asking to bring an extra person doesn’t realize that several others have also asked.
There is something of a tradition for people to debut new partners at the Thanksgiving feast, and so if younger family members want to bring a new squeeze to meet the family, it would be hard to say no.
You may have to draw the line with your friends’ adult children bringing extra people.
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